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Basic Elements of Invitations

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Invitational Line

Traditionally, the parents of the bride issue wedding invitations. This tradition dates back to the days when a bride's father made the marriage arrangements for his daughter.

The tradition continues today with the bride's family typically hosting the wedding. Accordingly, the names of the bride's parents appear on the first line of the wedding invitations.

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Request Lines

The phrase "request the honor of your presence" is typically reserved for ceremonies taking place at a house of worship, (temple, church, synagogue, other places of worship). The phrase "request the pleasure of your company" is typically used for ceremonies not taking place in religious setting.

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Common Questions

HOW DO WE INDICATE CHILDREN ARE NOT INVITED?

List only the parent’s full names on the front of the envelope. Avoid the temptation of printing “adults only” on your invitation, and instead, list this detail on your Free Wedding Website.

For a thoughtful touch, consider hiring a babysitter who will entertain your guest’s children for the evening at the hotel where your guests are staying.

HOW DO WE ASK FOR CASH INSTEAD OF GIFTS?

In a word, gently. Don’t include this information, or any registry information, on your invitation. Sign up for a site like Honeyfund, and link to your fund on your Free Wedding Website.

As a courtesy, be clear about how you will use the money. Whether it is a dream honeymoon or a starter house, guests will feel more comfortable knowing the meaning behind their contribution.

WHAT IF WE ARE HAVING A CASH BAR?

It is considered impolite to have a cash bar at your wedding. If an open bar is too expensive, consider doing a single cocktail hour or champagne toast.

DO WE HAVE TO SERVE A MEAL?

The choice of food at your event is entirely up to you. However, it’s respectful to let your guests know what to expect, especially those with children. If you aren’t planning a full dinner, include a line on your invitation that states what will take place, such as, “Dinner and dancing to follow” or “cocktails and hors d’ oeuvres to follow.”

Joining Word

The word "the" joins the bride and grooms name in most circumstances. The word "and" is typically used in place of "the" if the wedding is a Jewish, LDS, Catholic, and in other religious ceremonies. "And" is also used if the invitations are issued by the bride and groom themselves.

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Date Lines

Traditionally, the day of the week and date are written out in full.

It is not necessary to include the year of the wedding, but if it is included it should be on its own line. It should also be written out.

You may include the time of day though this is not usually necessary, as most people are able to determine the appropriate time of day.

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Location Lines

The location of the wedding should be included. No abbreviations should be used. It is not necessary to include a zip code. An address may be bypassed if the location is common knowledge. If marrying at a household, simply the address should be provided.

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Common Questions

SHOULD I GIVE GIFTS TO MY BRIDAL PARTY AND/OR GROOMSMEN?

Yes. Being a part of a wedding party takes significant time and financial investment. Give a thoughtful gift to each member either at the bachelor and bachelorette parties or on the day of the wedding.

DO I HAVE TO PROVIDE WEDDING FAVORS OR WELCOME BAGS?

Parting gifts and welcome bags can be a fun way to express gratitude to your guests and can provide a special touch, but they are not a must if your budget is tight.

WHAT IF I HAVE A DRESS CODE OR THEME?

Although you can indicate on your invitation if your event will be casual or formal attire, it is considered impolite to request specific dress codes, colors, or themes.

DO WE HAVE TO SEND THANK YOU CARDS?

Yes. Ideally, you’ll want to send your Thank You Cards within three months from your wedding date. Order your Thank You Cards before your wedding so they will be ready for you to fill out when you return from your honeymoon.